Selena Gomez gave NPR's Lulu Garcia-Navarro one of her most open interviews yet on how she healed after her heartbreak, along with how toxic her on-off relationship with Justin Bieber had become before it ended for good in spring 2018. The singer spoke for the first time about how she believed she was a victim of emotional abuse when with Bieber. Bieber himself admitted before to "abusing" past relationships.
Garcia-Navarro got Gomez to explicitly confirm for the first time that Bieber was indeed the inspiration behind "Lose You to Love Me."
Gomez started by discussing why the song meant so much to her: "I'm very proud of it," she said. "It has a different meaning to me now from when I wrote it. I felt I didn't get a respectful closure, and I had accepted that, but I know I needed some way to just say a few things that I wish I had said. It's not a hateful song; it's a song that is saying—I had something beautiful and I would never deny that it wasn't that. It was very difficult and I'm happy it's over. And I felt like this was a great way to just say, you know, it's done, and I understand that, and I respect that, and now here I am stepping into a whole other chapter."
"Saying goodbye to Justin Bieber, who I'm assuming you're speaking about," Garcia-Navarro said.
"You had to get the name in, I get it," Gomez conceded.
Garcia-Navarro asked if getting over Bieber and that relationship was one of the harder parts of her life she had gone through.
"No, because I've found the strength in it," Gomez said. "It's dangerous to stay in a victim mentality. And I'm not being disrespectful, I do feel I was a victim to certain abuse—"
New music is on the way from LeAnn Rimes this month, as the singer has unveiled her LovE Sessions, where each Friday she will release a cover of one of her favorite love songs. Today, Feb. 7, Billboard has the exclusive reveal of Rimes’ stirring interpretation of Selena Gomez’s “Lose You to Love Me.”
Rimes’ stripped down version has the singer seated at the piano at her Los Angeles home beside close friend and creative partner Darrell Brown as she delicately belts the song's empowering message. “Lose You to Love Me” was initially written by Gomez, Julia Michaels and Justin Tranter, and Rimes says she instantly connected to it.
“‘Lose You to Love Me’ is such a beautifully written, honest portrayal of a woman putting her heart first and the drastic process in which one sometimes has to go through in order to heal from a broken heart,” Rimes tells Billboard. “It’s the kind of beautiful ballad you don’t hear very much in pop music anymore.”
Before Justin Bieber rode off into the sunset with Hailey Baldwin, he and Selena Gomez dated on and off for seven years, as the records show. Their relationship definitely had its ups and downs—Selena recently said she experienced emotional abuse in it—but she has fully moved on and is reportedly “extremely relieved.”
According to a new report from Us Weekly, with the release of her new album, Selena was able to get so much off her chest and has closed that “chapter of her life.” Their source said, “She loved being able to tell her truth through her own art and her own way. It took a lot of discipline, obedience and strength to get her mental and emotional health back in a good place.”
While some have linked Selena to Niall Horan and her ex/KROST founder Samuel Krost in recent months, the insider said she is just focusing on herself. They explained:
“Right now, she is focusing on [her health] as well as her music and isn’t actively looking or going out of her way to be in a relationship right now. She is still healing, but now knows what kind of guy she would want to date and what qualities he would need to have in order for her and her future boyfriend to be in a healthy, thriving, loving and supportive relationship.”
Back in January, during an interview with NPR, Selena echoed a similar statement and said she wants to put all this in the past. Ultimately, her main goal is just to “walk through it with as much grace as possible.”